Science says that positivity comes from within. Someone who is comfortable in their skin, personality and is satisfied with their life are more likely to see the world and its inhabitants in a positive light. Someone on the contrary, who are not self-confident will be surrounded by negative thoughts and will see the world in a negative light. In the long term, the person will enter, a difficult to escape, the mental pathway of depression. Depression hinders personal growth, which further lowers self-confidence, which pulls you into a mental quicksand.
Depression among teens is caused due to social pressure, unrealistic academic expectations and going through biological changes. The symptoms of which are feelings of low self-worth, isolation, loss of willpower and feelings of sadness. Surprisingly depression among teens is rising exponentially, and low self-esteem seems to be one of the major causes of depression. Prolonged periods of anxiety lead to chronic depression and unfortunately, this age bracket has become the highest in suicidal rates globally. Medical practitioners advise antidepressants such as SSRIs however, therapy, and counseling are more effective and long term compared to prescriptions and do not have any side effects. The most effective natural remedy is to actively make changes in lifestyle and thought processes. This has proven to be everlasting in helping people find their worth and importance.
When a person is depressed, the rational thought process is not functional hence it is time-consuming and fatiguing to make efforts and fight depression. The obvious way out is to think positively about oneself. Self-assess yourself and know what are your strengths and weaknesses. The first step in the positive direction is to let go of some habits rather than adopt new ones.
Actively work to eliminate your weaknesses and get rid of any habits such as the ones stated below that might be toxic to your growth.
It is just another reason to be afraid of failure while concealing this fear by setting unrealistically high standards. Know that this would only lead you to be less confident about yourself. Look around and you will realize that people who experiment and are not afraid to fail, have learned the most in life. Be open to give new things a shot and fail as many times as necessary because what failure gives you, success does not i.e. experience and learning.
Associating your feelings to others and believing that your thoughts are the same as everyone else, leads you to an even lower self-esteem. Doubting yourself while assuming that the people around you do the same will start affecting not just your growth but your social relationships as well. Know that this assumption is only a self-induced thought process and the people around you support you similar to the way you root for your loved ones. If you do relate, relate your struggles to other people. Realize that the struggles you are going with are probably what other people are going through as well, and you are not alone. If they can make their way through obstacles, so can you.
- People Pleasing:
When you are not composed from within, you seek acceptance and validation externally. This drives a constant need to please people and to be proven useful because of the fear of being dismissed by your peers. Know that you come first and your aspirations are your top priority
Living in the past and often thinking about how something could have been done differently leads you to guilt-trip yourself. Know that your mistakes and failures are a part of your life and live to learn from them. Know that you are a part of a personal growth cycle and what you did in the past does not reflect your current character and personality. People grow, learn, and change to be a better person than yesterday. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to others or would expect from others. Be forgiving to yourself as you are to others.
It is not just you. Everyone makes mistakes in life. Admitting to your mistakes is good however; losing belief in yourself lowers your self-esteem. Taking the blame completely on you and regarding yourself not worthy of forgiveness and growth is a toxic habit that lowers you further into the pit of depression. Accept your mistakes but know that your mistake does not define your worth but your achievements do. Reflect on your successes and learn from your mistakes.
Acceptance is as imperative as learning to be self-confident. However, both are equally hard to reflect upon under depression. Nevertheless, understanding that you are the only source of your accomplishments can help you to endeavor on a journey of self-love and self-admiration.
“Aim high and don’t sell yourself short. Know that you are capable. Understand that many people battle with a lot of things – depression, body image or whatever else – so know that it is not just you. You’re not alone.” – Holly Holm